I'm going to start a multi-part series on feelings, maybe between 2 and 4 postings. Multiple posts are required in order to explain how feelings sometimes aide in creating instabilities that can lead to unwanted behaviors and habits, even to many self-defeating behaviors including addictions! This series will, in no way, attempt to replace any kind of therapy that you may be encountering or seeking at the moment. Rather, it is written in layman terms as to how our own feelings and the potential lack of identifying them and to acknowledge their existence that are the underlying source of addictions and unwanted behaviors. Today we will identify feelings. Next week we will point out how we are automated to either ignore our feelings (put them on the back burner so to speak), or at the very least we're programmed into believing that these certain feelings are "bad".
Let me go on record right now that a feeling is never "BAD"! We experience anger, guilt, loneliness, boredom, sadness and so on because our being has a need to address a situation. And, if we ignore that feeling by not taking appropriate action(s), the problem that feeling is presenting to us WILL lead to frustration then tertiary depression. All the while opening us up to the "too much" activities of distraction, like too much food, alcohol, smoking, drug abuse, shopping, sexing, and so on; but this will be explained later. Allow me to interject an opinion at this point that I hope will stick with you, the reader. Far too many professionals and some hypnotists bring their clients to the discovery of the feeling that led to the "too much"/addiction and leave it up to the client to work out the problem internally for themselves.
NEWS FLASH: if the client was capable of working out the problem themselves, why did they need to spend countless hours in an office "talking" and revealing Lord knows what irrelevant or embarrassing information to a stranger? This point is why (wait for it...plug coming) 5-PATH(R) certified hypnotists are considered the cream of the crop, top of the heap, the 1 percenters of their industry. These skilled hypnotists assist in taking the client to the feeling and then assist them in addressing that emotion in a manner to rid the client of the distraction (addictive) behavior, even if there is secondary gain motivation to maintain the behavior. We are adept, skilled professionals in the art of Age Regression and if needed Parts Mediation. End plug, lol.
The first tier of feelings offered are BOREDOM, ANGER GUILT, SADNESS, LONELINESS, INADEQUACY, STRESS, and FEAR. The higher tier contains FRUSTRATION and DEPRESSION. Remember, there are no bad feelings. Feelings are our mind's - body's way of pointing out that there is a situation that needs to be addressed in our life.
Emotional Pain Need, Want, Desire
1. Boredom To grow through challenge
2. Anger To experience fairness for self and others
3. Guilt To be fair to others
4. Sadness To keep valued things and people
5. Loneliness To have meaningful relationships
6. Inadequacy To feel good enough/adequate
7. Stress To have success in managing one's life
8. Fear To feel safe
9. Frustration To meet needs through own efforts
10. Depression To be effective and hopeful
In addition to these 10 feelings there is the feeling of SYMPATHY. This feeling can cause a person to feel bad because another person is hurting. It is simple, but it may not be easy.
The key to taking back control of one's power over how they feel is a 3 step process.
Step 1: Identifying or naming the feeling,
Step 2: Identifying the cause of the feeling (unfilled need, want, or desire),
Step 3: Identify a satisfying response - an action that fulfills the need want or desire.
In FEELINGS - PART 2 maybe we can look into why little things hurt and the dangerous cycle of not addressing (or burying) feelings by distractions, which leads to addict behavior.
Let me end today's post with this message from renowned hypnotherapist and author, Cal Banyan, in his book The Secret Language of Feelings. "When we ignore our feelings, our basic needs are unmet. Our lives become filled with frustration and stress and eventually depression". My reading clients who come to Lakes Region Hypnosis Center to experience hypnosis are offered a copy of this book at a reduced, bulk rate.
Welcome to Lakes Region Hypnosis Center's information sharing blog
I would like to begin my blogging career (sounds funny for a 60-something to be saying) by just introducing myself and some of the services we provide. My goal is to introduce you all to me and the wonderful worlds of hypnosis and other alternative, less expensive (in the long run) healing modalities we provide and clearly work. My intention is to also educate the public through my blogging.
I am a 67 year old who refuses to retire. I have worn many hats in my many careers, one could say it took me a long time to discover what I wanted to be or do when I grew up. I will say it did take me a while though. I've been part of management team where I was responsible for a multi-million dollar communication budget in a large financial institution. I left the corporate world as a thirty something and became a healthcare worker in a county nursing home. This was a very rewarding vocation by the way, but the greedy corporate world began sticking their fingers in the proverbial pot and infesting that career with their greed and gluttony. But, that's a whole different blogging path for the politically inclined, and does not belong here. I finished my career as a political action coordinator for a national public employee union and was forced out to pasture. Yes folks, even the unions have their dark side. But, I've always wanted to help others along the way, a healer so to speak. Whether a human client or a pet client (Animal Reiki attuned), I have always been driven to open up my heart, mind and arms to those who need some assistance along the way.
I began seeking a healing path for myself and something to provide comfort to others. I entered my chrysalis stage, my transition to the more spiritual path, that of a provider of proven alternative healing modalities. I became a Reiki Master/Teacher, actually being attuned through a local Reiki Master from Gilmanton and another from the West Coast. and still felt there there was more. I began various training along the way, as a physical medium, a crystal worker, and so on and so forth. I rounded out my resume at the Thomas Institute of Hypnosis and the National Guild of Hypnotists becoming a Certified Consulting Hypnotist. And this is the "Readers Digest" version of how I got to where I am now.
Operating out of Tilton, New Hampshire, ergo the name Lakes Region Hypnosis Center; we also perform Reiki healing sessions under Peaceful Light Healing (or PLH). PLH was my first organization and is now a part of our Lakes Region Hypnosis Center operation. Effectively combining both powerful tools (Hypnosis & Reiki) and we have created a healing modality second to none and without OPIODS. Healing others is a love and passion for us. Continuous education in the art of hypnosis on a regular basis, as well as consuming mandatory reading material is part of our modus operandi and in our operations manual. We also teach healing techniques at various metaphysical facilities and institutions. Sharing information at community events and local libraries, schools, and other public and private venues is always on our agenda. So please, continue to watch this website for updated events. Maybe learn a thing or two about hypnosis, Reiki, or even a bit about physical mediumship. But, be sure to watch my blogs for upcoming information to help demystify hypnosis and bring it to the forefront of where it belongs. The subconscious mind is a powerful tool for healing; and remember this, "if you can think it, it CAN happen". And don't forget about the Reiki!
Future posts will include myths and phobias of hypnotism, pain management, healthy living, stress and stressors, encountering negative suggestions and negative self talk, self hypnotism, emotional trauma, mind-body spirit, subconscious mind, daily affirmations and intentions, circumstance or predetermined, deja vu all over again, breathing techniques, Reiki, chakra centers, Past Life Regression "real or not" and many more topics on healing. So until the next post,
Breath - Relax - Heal.
P.S. Please let me know how I performed in my first blog post ever.