The final installation of this series, learning some steps to stop them form entering.
In part 1 of 2, I attempted to identify the top reasons why narcissists always seem to continuously cycle into some people's life. In today's final presentation, I hope we are able to show you some ways to stop attracting these predators. FOREVER!
1. SET FIRM BOUNDARIES.
First and foremost, there is nothing wrong with being the empathetic, person described in part 1 of this series. BUT, it is important to restrict another person from taking advantage your kind, caring qualities. You can do this by being firm about your boundaries. That is define and adopt what behavior you will and will not accept, what you are willing to give, and what you refuse to do no matter what the other person says.
Narcissists do not understand boundaries and in all cases will usually try to consistently push through yours whenever possible. If an individual ignores, repeatedly crosses, or is unresponsive to your efforts to enforce boundaries, you need to strongly reconsider continuing the current relationship. This behavior by that person can include intrusive questioning, disrespect for your time and space, and an ability to adhere to your delineation of boundaries. By setting YOUR strong and uncompromising boundaries, you are telling the narcissist to back off. Yup, aptly put. More often then naught, you will need to ditch that individual who makes you feel less-than. A hypnotist can definitely assist you with boundary building.
2. WORK ON SETTING ROCK-SOLID CONFIDENCE.
Narcissists love someone who doesn't believe in themselves or whose insecurities get the best of them. One of the best ways to stop attracting a narcissist is to develop a strong sense of self-worth. Obviously, developing confidence and self-love can be a life-long journey, but once you start reminding yourself of what you deserve, and outwardly project that confidence, narcissists will see that you are not someone easily manipulated. And therefore, you are not a good victim to prey upon. Self-love, self-confidence, self-worth are all traits that I as a hypnotist can and will assist you to build and deploy.
3. HOME IN ON A PERSON'S VALUES.
Individual values speaks volumes about who they truly are. Focus on their values and morals, search for objective facts to support their stated values. and then tap into your own intuition. There is one thing a narcissist cannot fake, and that is empathy. Most times we can intuitively sense if someone truly connects or not.
4. IDENTIFY RED FLAGS.
If only what you saw is what you always got, eh? In the case of the narcissist, their personalities will fluctuate dramatically, depending on the situation they are in. A narcissist's public and private selves are more extreme in presentation, particularly in their treatment of their partner. If an individual is consistently respectful and charming in public, while consistently abusive demeaning in private, it is likely to be a red flag indicating a narcissist. It may be easy to brush off the red flags, especially when a person comes off as so well to others. So please, trust your gut and take action when any flags appear. A healthy relationship won't feel like something is off. SO BELIEVE IT WHEN YOU FEEL THAT THERE IS SOMETHING OFF.
5. AVOID ANYONE WHO TRIES TO CONTROL YOUR BEHAVIOR.
If you notice that someone is imposing their opinions on you and gets mad when you don't listen, my advice is figuratively - RUN AWAY! End that relationship any way you can, and as quickly as you can! Unless of course you enjoy being controlled; and in that case good luck travelling down that lonesome path. Identifying the perpetrator's propensities are important. Criticizing your appearance, consistently attempting to control your behavior, or attempting to make you a mold of them, are controlling actions committed baring narcissistic tendencies. Each and every one of these are. Understand that the right partner will appreciate you for who you are instead of trying to make every choice for you.
As you begin to understand these signs of narcissists and what type of person narcissists are attracted to, it will begin to become easier to avoid them over time. Here at Peaceful Light Healing & Hypnosis AT THE Lakes Region Hypnosis Center, as a trained, certified hypnotist, I can assist you in all areas of your current life. If you would like to build your self-awareness, increase your self-love, strengthen your self-confidence, expand self-love, increase/maintain/implement personal boundaries, or implement all or any other positive traits, your time is here. AND, it is never too late in life to implement healthy, positive changes for yourself. I believe, contrary some old adages, you can teach a dog new tricks no matter the age. So connect with us at 603-326-6008, and let us "help you help yourself".
And so ends our short 2 part series on narcissists always ending up in certain lives. I hope to speak to you soon, whether situations related to this article or some other life effecting situation. Until we do, please stay safe and be well. And always remember to:
BREATHE - RELAX - HEAL
Welcome to Lakes Region Hypnosis Center's information sharing blog
I would like to begin my blogging career (sounds funny for a 60-something to be saying) by just introducing myself and some of the services we provide. My goal is to introduce you all to me and the wonderful worlds of hypnosis and other alternative, less expensive (in the long run) healing modalities we provide and clearly work. My intention is to also educate the public through my blogging.
I am a 67 year old who refuses to retire. I have worn many hats in my many careers, one could say it took me a long time to discover what I wanted to be or do when I grew up. I will say it did take me a while though. I've been part of management team where I was responsible for a multi-million dollar communication budget in a large financial institution. I left the corporate world as a thirty something and became a healthcare worker in a county nursing home. This was a very rewarding vocation by the way, but the greedy corporate world began sticking their fingers in the proverbial pot and infesting that career with their greed and gluttony. But, that's a whole different blogging path for the politically inclined, and does not belong here. I finished my career as a political action coordinator for a national public employee union and was forced out to pasture. Yes folks, even the unions have their dark side. But, I've always wanted to help others along the way, a healer so to speak. Whether a human client or a pet client (Animal Reiki attuned), I have always been driven to open up my heart, mind and arms to those who need some assistance along the way.
I began seeking a healing path for myself and something to provide comfort to others. I entered my chrysalis stage, my transition to the more spiritual path, that of a provider of proven alternative healing modalities. I became a Reiki Master/Teacher, actually being attuned through a local Reiki Master from Gilmanton and another from the West Coast. and still felt there there was more. I began various training along the way, as a physical medium, a crystal worker, and so on and so forth. I rounded out my resume at the Thomas Institute of Hypnosis and the National Guild of Hypnotists becoming a Certified Consulting Hypnotist. And this is the "Readers Digest" version of how I got to where I am now.
Operating out of Tilton, New Hampshire, ergo the name Lakes Region Hypnosis Center; we also perform Reiki healing sessions under Peaceful Light Healing (or PLH). PLH was my first organization and is now a part of our Lakes Region Hypnosis Center operation. Effectively combining both powerful tools (Hypnosis & Reiki) and we have created a healing modality second to none and without OPIODS. Healing others is a love and passion for us. Continuous education in the art of hypnosis on a regular basis, as well as consuming mandatory reading material is part of our modus operandi and in our operations manual. We also teach healing techniques at various metaphysical facilities and institutions. Sharing information at community events and local libraries, schools, and other public and private venues is always on our agenda. So please, continue to watch this website for updated events. Maybe learn a thing or two about hypnosis, Reiki, or even a bit about physical mediumship. But, be sure to watch my blogs for upcoming information to help demystify hypnosis and bring it to the forefront of where it belongs. The subconscious mind is a powerful tool for healing; and remember this, "if you can think it, it CAN happen". And don't forget about the Reiki!
Future posts will include myths and phobias of hypnotism, pain management, healthy living, stress and stressors, encountering negative suggestions and negative self talk, self hypnotism, emotional trauma, mind-body spirit, subconscious mind, daily affirmations and intentions, circumstance or predetermined, deja vu all over again, breathing techniques, Reiki, chakra centers, Past Life Regression "real or not" and many more topics on healing. So until the next post,
Breath - Relax - Heal.
P.S. Please let me know how I performed in my first blog post ever.