Some Reasons Why You Attract Them . But Can You Stop The Attraction?
Are you wondering why you keep attracting these types of people? You know them, don't you? The qualities that they possess include an inability to empathize, a pathological need to be admired, and that exaggerated sense of almighty self-importance. These are definitely not the traits of a loving, supportive partner, are they? Hmm. So I wonder why some people constantly attract narcissists over and over and over again. Today's discourse will point out why this happens all the time and the next presentation, Part 2 of 2, will be how you can finally boot them to the curb, FOREVER! First we will understand the attraction, then let's move forward and fix it, together.
1. YOU HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM.
Everybody struggles with self-esteem issues from time to time. The narcissist unfortunately uses this to their advantage. Narcissists use a "self-assured" personality to gain the advantage over you. Women (men also) who are struggling with their own self-esteem issues that include a history of abuse, trauma, bullying, or identity issues tend to attract these nasty cretins. They appear as if they're a white knight galloping to the rescue, ready to lift you up. And then, right on cue, narcissists begin a relationship by overdosing their prey with love and affection. In reality, they're only using your insecurities to inflate their ego and to ultimately control you. These predators are basically grooming you!
2. THEY MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD (SOMETIMES).
While a narcissist will continually critique you in private, they will proclaim your achievements to others any day of the week. You are viewed by the narcissist as an extension of themselves. You are someone who will reflect positively and admirably on them. Ergo, a narcissist may be attracted to someone who possesses qualities that they value and will possibly enhance their image. When you look good to other people, they hope it will make them look good also. It all ties back to their desire to control you, making certain you are always at your best, even to the detriment of you mental wellness.
3. YOU HAVE (OR GREW UP AROUND) A NARCISSISTIC PARENT.
Unfortunately, breaking a cycle is easier said than done. Unless, of course, you utilize a qualified, certified hypnotist. If you have (or grew up with) a narcissistic parent, subconsciously you may seek out a partner owning the same traits. Emotional minds seek familiarity and are compelled to repeat relationship patterns. Although not very romantic, parents symbolize our first love experiences. This results with us replicating these experienced patterns or dynamics in our romantic relationships when we become the adults.
Even if you do not have a narcissistic parent, you may have a toxic family member or narcissistic ex that deeply affected you in a similar way. Familiarity is comfortable and often we invite that familiarity in. It doesn't matter as to whether the situation is a good one or bad one.
4. YOU MAY BE AN EMPATHIC PERSON.
If you are able to relate to and feel someone else's emotions, you may posses empathy. This is an amazing characteristic to have but you must be cognizant of whose needs and desires you are tuning in to. Empaths, by their nature, are drawn to narcissists and narcissists absolutely and totally love taking advantage of this quality. You see, since narcissists rely on exclusive focus and attention, an empathetic person would naturally appeal to them. In the meantime, the emotionally attuned person is likely to experience gratification or receive positive feedback for their unique emotional accuracy and perpetuate the dynamic.
5. YOU DENY YOUR OWN NEEDS.
Ever find yourself in an exponentially giving relationships without ever taking the time to think about what you want (and need) in return? Narcissists prioritize themselves above anyone else. So, a person who facilitates that, knowingly or not, is definitely a fine catch for the vulture.
Because the victim is fearful of being perceived by others as weak and/or needy, an individual may overcompensate by ignoring, denying, or even not acknowledging their own needs. And as a result, the partner who tends to perceive herself/himself as selfless, without any emotional needs, can focus exclusively on the other person, that narcissist.
And thus are the top reasons people attract a narcissist. There are other lesser reasons, but I decided to list what I feel are the "top 5" reasons. We can now see why some folks continue to unsuspectingly fall prey to the narcissist, but through no fault of their own. Please understand that even though folks are being continually victimized by these lecherous, narcissistic snakes, it really is a case of reprogramming the subconscious and boosting the self-esteem of the sufferers. This is where a trained, certified hypnotist can help you help yourself. This situation where the injured party dwells can pretty much be eradicated with a few hypnosis sessions.
If you identify with 1 or multiple reasons for attracting narcissists, and want to know how to stop it, stay tuned for Part 2 of 2. Also,why don't you schedule a hypnosis session by calling us at 603-326-6008. If you would like our assistance by using hypnotism and/or some calming Reiki healing, reach out to us at Peaceful Light Healing AT THE Lakes Region Hypnosis Center, where we "Help You Help Yourself". - Be Safe and Be Well.
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Welcome to Lakes Region Hypnosis Center's information sharing blog
I would like to begin my blogging career (sounds funny for a 60-something to be saying) by just introducing myself and some of the services we provide. My goal is to introduce you all to me and the wonderful worlds of hypnosis and other alternative, less expensive (in the long run) healing modalities we provide and clearly work. My intention is to also educate the public through my blogging.
I am a 67 year old who refuses to retire. I have worn many hats in my many careers, one could say it took me a long time to discover what I wanted to be or do when I grew up. I will say it did take me a while though. I've been part of management team where I was responsible for a multi-million dollar communication budget in a large financial institution. I left the corporate world as a thirty something and became a healthcare worker in a county nursing home. This was a very rewarding vocation by the way, but the greedy corporate world began sticking their fingers in the proverbial pot and infesting that career with their greed and gluttony. But, that's a whole different blogging path for the politically inclined, and does not belong here. I finished my career as a political action coordinator for a national public employee union and was forced out to pasture. Yes folks, even the unions have their dark side. But, I've always wanted to help others along the way, a healer so to speak. Whether a human client or a pet client (Animal Reiki attuned), I have always been driven to open up my heart, mind and arms to those who need some assistance along the way.
I began seeking a healing path for myself and something to provide comfort to others. I entered my chrysalis stage, my transition to the more spiritual path, that of a provider of proven alternative healing modalities. I became a Reiki Master/Teacher, actually being attuned through a local Reiki Master from Gilmanton and another from the West Coast. and still felt there there was more. I began various training along the way, as a physical medium, a crystal worker, and so on and so forth. I rounded out my resume at the Thomas Institute of Hypnosis and the National Guild of Hypnotists becoming a Certified Consulting Hypnotist. And this is the "Readers Digest" version of how I got to where I am now.
Operating out of Tilton, New Hampshire, ergo the name Lakes Region Hypnosis Center; we also perform Reiki healing sessions under Peaceful Light Healing (or PLH). PLH was my first organization and is now a part of our Lakes Region Hypnosis Center operation. Effectively combining both powerful tools (Hypnosis & Reiki) and we have created a healing modality second to none and without OPIODS. Healing others is a love and passion for us. Continuous education in the art of hypnosis on a regular basis, as well as consuming mandatory reading material is part of our modus operandi and in our operations manual. We also teach healing techniques at various metaphysical facilities and institutions. Sharing information at community events and local libraries, schools, and other public and private venues is always on our agenda. So please, continue to watch this website for updated events. Maybe learn a thing or two about hypnosis, Reiki, or even a bit about physical mediumship. But, be sure to watch my blogs for upcoming information to help demystify hypnosis and bring it to the forefront of where it belongs. The subconscious mind is a powerful tool for healing; and remember this, "if you can think it, it CAN happen". And don't forget about the Reiki!
Future posts will include myths and phobias of hypnotism, pain management, healthy living, stress and stressors, encountering negative suggestions and negative self talk, self hypnotism, emotional trauma, mind-body spirit, subconscious mind, daily affirmations and intentions, circumstance or predetermined, deja vu all over again, breathing techniques, Reiki, chakra centers, Past Life Regression "real or not" and many more topics on healing. So until the next post,
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P.S. Please let me know how I performed in my first blog post ever.