Her are some of the gifts when we embrace our feeling of anger.
For those of you who have come this far and continue reading about the gifts of anger, I thank you for journeying with me.
Below are but a few examples of the gifts from the feeling of anger. I'm sure you can add a few from your own, personal experiences.
1. Saying NO and Setting Boundaries.
The intensity of anger is fierce and generous. We access the assertiveness to delineate "the line"; to project when a boundary is crossed or we are being hurt in some way. When afraid of this fire we become too watery, fluid, too wishy-washy; we lack the firmness needed to assert where we begin and end, opening the door for people to take advantage of us.
2. Maintaining Integrity.
Furthermore, anger ensures that we stay true to ourselves. From a personal perspective, anger is a signal that "I am out of integrity". If someone asks me to do something that doesn't feel right and I agree to it, I often feel angry soon after. My fail-safe anger-guide quickly informs me that I denied what is right for me, that I compromised my personal integrity. The anger is telling me that I did not listen to my intuition.
3. Entering Conflict.
Conflict is a natural part of life. A clear sign of fearing anger is the chronic avoidance of conflict. We can't dance it forever, as much as we may try. All of us will soon enter its cauldron. Yet, it is hard to do so if we fear anger because conflict demands that we assert ourselves, inclusive of feelings and opinions. This can seem very dangerous if we learned that anger and conflict are unsafe. If fear is tempered and anger befriended, conflict can be entered more willingly and navigated more skillfully. We will reap the benefits hidden in conflict including growth and creativity.
4. Creativity and Purpose.
Some of the best writing comes from an angry response to what has been witnessed experiences: someone else has crossed a line or being angered at how children, animals, or Mother Nature are being treated. During these times a clear NO may surge within; and then possibly a loud, clear YES emerges pointing towards a stand to take. In the NO the YES is calling. That hot primal energy can be turned into service.
Anger at injustice may call to folks to advocate, to paint, to start a support group, to confront someone who needs to know the harmful impact they are having. Anger if made conscious and used intentionally can turn passive bystanders into purposeful leaders. It can be a powerful tool to help transform the world.
5. Allowing Anger in Others.
By denying anger within, we unconsciously deny it in others. We placate their anger by trying to "fix them" or make them calm down; we rebuke or judge perceiving their anger as negative. We walk or run away, or we just simply avoid them altogether. Their anger makes us feel unsafe, just as our own anger does. And so, when this healthy emotion arises in others we cannot hold a space for it.
I wonder how this influences us when we care for children, those little ones who are unbridled in expressing their feelings.
6. Healing and Aliveness.
As New Age folks like to think otherwise, it's not about feeling better! It is about being better able to feel. Whether it's anger, sadness, or joy, in feeling we become more alive. We wake up when the long-captured beast is freed from it's cage and finally allowed to roar! We awaken when we finally allow ourselves to grieve what we've long held tight in our hearts, including our anger. When anger is felt and followed by the cleansing waters of sadness, space is made available for joy and playfulness to shine through. Liberation into a celebratory state edifying our spirit.
Anger is an essential emotion! It allows each of us to move to healing. Everyone has unresolved trauma. Each of us has lived a life of not fully having some emotional need met and boundary respected. There have been times we needed to scream NO or lash out in self-defense, and it wasn't safe to do so. The primal energy could not experience needed movement and expression. It became trapped causing trauma!
In one client that I regressed, it was through re-living the unexpressed anger of her childhood abuse that she discovered implicit memories associated with it. In a healing session I encouraged her to let the unresolved anger associated with her childhood abuse slowly build within as she repeated the words"f**k you!" with greater and building greater intensity. "F**k you!" was what made her body want and she chose those words to say. She did not think up the words; to her they were felt and made deep down within. When her anger was at its peak, the memory was released from her body like a rising mist. She saw what was happening. She stated that this was "profoundly healing" to complete the survival response and clear the toxicity from her system; to release that memory and free that primal energy stuck in her body causing decades of psycho-social and psychosomatic problems.
Imagine if I had cringed at the phrase "F**k you!", judging it as wrong, inappropriate of rude. "F**k you" and the fierce, unrestrained, raw anger associated with it, were true gifts to her soul. They could be gifts to yours as well.
So in closing, let us remember that the feeling of anger can be a powerful tool to help us heal. We MUST view anger as a feeling that arises when we need to address some "unfair" issue. And it is imperative to welcome it in order to correct an "unfair wrong".
As a hypnotist trained in 5-PATH hypnosis, I am confident in the Language of Feelings and how not addressing them can led to negative/unwanted behaviors and when left unchecked may eventually lead to tertiary depression. Acknowledge what your feelings are telling you.
Feel free to reach out to me for more information and schedule a healing appointment.
BREATHE - RELAX - HEAL
Welcome to Lakes Region Hypnosis Center's information sharing blog
I would like to begin my blogging career (sounds funny for a 60-something to be saying) by just introducing myself and some of the services we provide. My goal is to introduce you all to me and the wonderful worlds of hypnosis and other alternative, less expensive (in the long run) healing modalities we provide and clearly work. My intention is to also educate the public through my blogging.
I am a 67 year old who refuses to retire. I have worn many hats in my many careers, one could say it took me a long time to discover what I wanted to be or do when I grew up. I will say it did take me a while though. I've been part of management team where I was responsible for a multi-million dollar communication budget in a large financial institution. I left the corporate world as a thirty something and became a healthcare worker in a county nursing home. This was a very rewarding vocation by the way, but the greedy corporate world began sticking their fingers in the proverbial pot and infesting that career with their greed and gluttony. But, that's a whole different blogging path for the politically inclined, and does not belong here. I finished my career as a political action coordinator for a national public employee union and was forced out to pasture. Yes folks, even the unions have their dark side. But, I've always wanted to help others along the way, a healer so to speak. Whether a human client or a pet client (Animal Reiki attuned), I have always been driven to open up my heart, mind and arms to those who need some assistance along the way.
I began seeking a healing path for myself and something to provide comfort to others. I entered my chrysalis stage, my transition to the more spiritual path, that of a provider of proven alternative healing modalities. I became a Reiki Master/Teacher, actually being attuned through a local Reiki Master from Gilmanton and another from the West Coast. and still felt there there was more. I began various training along the way, as a physical medium, a crystal worker, and so on and so forth. I rounded out my resume at the Thomas Institute of Hypnosis and the National Guild of Hypnotists becoming a Certified Consulting Hypnotist. And this is the "Readers Digest" version of how I got to where I am now.
Operating out of Tilton, New Hampshire, ergo the name Lakes Region Hypnosis Center; we also perform Reiki healing sessions under Peaceful Light Healing (or PLH). PLH was my first organization and is now a part of our Lakes Region Hypnosis Center operation. Effectively combining both powerful tools (Hypnosis & Reiki) and we have created a healing modality second to none and without OPIODS. Healing others is a love and passion for us. Continuous education in the art of hypnosis on a regular basis, as well as consuming mandatory reading material is part of our modus operandi and in our operations manual. We also teach healing techniques at various metaphysical facilities and institutions. Sharing information at community events and local libraries, schools, and other public and private venues is always on our agenda. So please, continue to watch this website for updated events. Maybe learn a thing or two about hypnosis, Reiki, or even a bit about physical mediumship. But, be sure to watch my blogs for upcoming information to help demystify hypnosis and bring it to the forefront of where it belongs. The subconscious mind is a powerful tool for healing; and remember this, "if you can think it, it CAN happen". And don't forget about the Reiki!
Future posts will include myths and phobias of hypnotism, pain management, healthy living, stress and stressors, encountering negative suggestions and negative self talk, self hypnotism, emotional trauma, mind-body spirit, subconscious mind, daily affirmations and intentions, circumstance or predetermined, deja vu all over again, breathing techniques, Reiki, chakra centers, Past Life Regression "real or not" and many more topics on healing. So until the next post,
Breath - Relax - Heal.
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